My Relationships course teaches you all the shit you should have learned from your parents, but didn’t.
Relationships can be a source of great joy and meaning in our lives—but they can also be a source of great pain and misery.
Why is it that some people have effortlessly deep and meaningful connections with others—while the rest of us have to drag ourselves from one dumpster fire to the next?
We’ve all got baggage. We’ve all got insecurities. We’ve all been hurt.
But why does the baggage, pain, and insecurity continue to fuck up relationships for some and not for others?
How are we supposed to start fresh or improve a current relationship if we’re still licking our wounds from the last one—or the last five?
The Frustrating Truth About Relationships
Well, the short (and annoying) answer is that “it’s complicated.”
We’re complicated creatures who like to complicate things more than they already are.
We spin stories in our heads about what relationships are and ought to be.
We usually see the people in our lives as we want them to be, not as they actually are.
We get into these cycles in our relationships where we want to connect with someone, we want to solve problems with them, we want to love them for them and for them to love us for us.
So we put in the effort, we try really hard, we say and do all the “relationship things” we’re supposed to, and yet… our relationships still go to shit.
It seems like some of us are just doomed to be “bad at relationships” for the rest of our lives.
The One Problem Behind All Your Relationship Problems
But relationships don’t have to be so difficult or so painful all the time.
You see, these cycles that keep popping up in your relationships are really just a manifestation of the emotional scripts you use to navigate the world.
You learned these emotional scripts from past relationships going all the way back to when you were a dumb, drooling little kid trying to figure out how to flush the toilet so your mom wouldn’t yell at you every time you used it.
A lot of your emotional scripts were seared into your brain years or even decades ago. They’re so ingrained and so automatic that you’re rarely even aware they exist.
And that’s the problem.
The Relationship Spiral of Doom keeps repeating itself in one frustrating cycle after the next because you keep falling back on emotional scripts that 1) you’re not in control of and 2) obviously don’t work very well.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
With a little more awareness and a little more effort, we can start to pick apart our scripts and see how they’re affecting our relationships—good or bad.
We can start to control the narrative in our minds around relationships, rather than the other way around.
Unfuck Your Relationships
This is what my course on Healthy Relationships is all about. It’s a synthesis of my 15 years of experience helping people navigate relationships of all kinds—romantic, friends, family, co-workers… you name it.
In that time, I’ve seen some shit.
I’ve seen a lot of confusion and a lot of pain. I’ve seen many, many people at rock bottom.
And I’ve helped them pick themselves back up and finally get their shit together.
That’s what I aim to do with you in this course, too. You lucky fuck.
In it, you’ll learn:
- The two major types of relationship problems and how to handle each of them so they don’t keep popping up in your relationships.
- How to identify the emotional triggers that make you insecure and do things you wind up regretting later.
- The one key to stop dragging emotional baggage from your past into your current relationships.
- The three types of toxic relationships and how to spot if you’re in one (if you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you are or have been in a toxic relationship).
- How to establish strong, healthy boundaries in all your relationships, whether it’s romantic, family, friends, work, etc.
- How to take responsibility for your emotions and actions—and how to hold others accountable for their emotions and actions.
- What healthy communication actually looks like and how the way you express yourself can make or break a relationship.
- What almost everyone gets wrong about unconditional relationships and how conditions are actually necessary for healthy relationships.
The course includes six video lessons. You also get actionable exercises for each lesson and a really fucking pretty digital workbook that you can print off.
Now, while you will do a lot of exercises that will help you have healthier relationships, this course does not include a bunch of tactics, tricks, hacks, secrets, or whatever other bullshit is being peddled as “advice” out there these days.
The point of this course is to have healthy relationships. If you use some “method” to trick someone into liking you, well that’s a pretty shitty way to start a relationship, isn’t it?
We’re going to go way deeper than that.
We’re going to poke and prod around all your quirks and baggage—and, yes, even some of your insecurities—to find out what’s been fucking up all your relationships up to this point in your life.
But don’t worry, I’ll help you put yourself back together by the end of it. You’ll see how your relationships can stop being a source of stress and pain and instead be a source of strength and meaning in your life.
And that’s not all…
If you sign up for Healthy Relationships, you’ll get access to all of my premium content in The Subtle Art School.
The School is a deep dive into all my favorite topics I’ve written about in my books and on my blog for nearly 15 years.
Here’s what you get with a single membership
A library of 6 new video courses — In addition to Healthy Relationships, you’ll also get access to the rest of my courses:
Find Your Purpose
Finding your purpose in life can’t be done at a weekend seminar. It’s a lifelong process of asking and answering some difficult questions, taking action based on those answers, learning about yourself in the process… and then doing it all over again. This course will not only help you spend your time more intentionally, it will challenge your identity to the core.
Becoming more resilient in the modern world isn’t about avoiding suffering. It’s about seeking out the pain you’re willing to endure in service of a higher purpose. In this course, we cover the different kinds of suffering and consider why some forms of pain are actually quite healthy for us. We’ll get to the bottom of why you’re avoiding the necessary pains in your life and, ultimately, how you can turn and face them as a more resilient motherfucker.
Do you ever wonder why you do stupid shit sometimes? Or maybe you’re not in control of yourself in certain situations like you think you should be? Do you feel all emotions intensely… or not at all? Are you dead inside? If any of that sounds familiar, the Emotional Mastery Course will help you be less of a… well, less of an emotional dipshit.
Challenge Your Own Beliefs
This is my favorite course. And buckle the hell up for it, because we’re going to be digging up some of your deepest held beliefs and questioning everything we find. You will laugh at yourself. You might cry at what you actually believe. But you will come out of it a better person.
Build a Better Life
This is the most actionable “nuts and bolts” course I offer. In it, we’ll come up with a step-by-step plan to get off your ass and get your life pointed in a more fulfilling, productive direction. It’s a great complement to any or all of the courses above.
Oh, And Here’s Even More
On top of all the courses, you’ll also get:
Quarterly live webinars
Log on every quarter to ask me questions or just come hang out with other members. You’ll join people from all over the world who are also learning to give fewer and fewer fucks every day.
Really pretty digital workbooks
Each course comes with a professionally designed PDF workbook. Print them out and tape them to your fridge. Print them out and give them to your therapist. Or just open them up on your computer or phone and stare in awe at how gorgeous they are. I don’t give a shit what you do with them, they’re yours. And they’re really fucking pretty and packed with exercises that’ll make your life better.
Audio commentaries on my books, my old courses, ebooks that nerd out on some of my favorite topics, book reviews and recommendations, Ask Mark Anything videos, and more. New content is added on a regular basis.
What Our Students Say
“I went on a date last night—and gave not only him, but myself half a chance!!”
“The way in which the course was delivered resounded brilliantly, and the basic and down to earth language makes this so enjoyable. I loved it—and am already implementing all of the recommendations it made.”
“The course shed a lot of light and brought some solace in the wake of a painful break-up.”
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Will I be able to participate in live Q&A sessions with Mark?
Yes. Quarterly live webinars will offer the chance to ask Mark questions. Of course, he won’t be able to answer everyone’s questions, but he’ll answer as many as he can in the time allotted—and talk about tacos.
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We accept Visa, Mastercard, American Express, Discover & Diners, Google Pay, Apple Pay, and Paypal.
Is all content in English language?
Yes. Videos for the courses have closed captions available in English as well.
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